Closer through Distance

I’m a bad haircut and a wardrobe change away from being a Philosophy mayor, I swear.

       Yesterday I kind of bumped heads with my best boy friend (not boyfriend, as half the island may think) Benjamin and we ended up not talking all day. Being the stupid thing that it was, we met up as if nothing had happened and talked about the whole thing for a total of 15 seconds, and just like that the disturbance in the force was gone. After saying how much we didn’t miss each other (yes, I know, 24 hours apart, it’s an unhealthy thing) something like the following took place:

 

Benji: “Maybe we did need the time apart…”

Me:  “Why do you say that?”

Benji: “Maybe being apart gave us room to miss each other and moved us to be okay again.”

Me: “Well, yeah.”

Benji:  “See? Having you the weekend here instead of out of town had us together too much. Maybe we got sick of each other’s company.”

 

       That last sentence couldn’t be truer. As much as we may love each other we do get sick off each other’s company every once in a while. It doesn’t only happen with friends you’re really close with, it happens with family, classmates, and I would dare say it happens in serious relationships too. We really do need time for ourselves. We need the time to do what we must do in order to keep our sanity. We need time to just be.

       The same thing is happening with my “wife” Ivy! I rarely get sick of her. We sometimes do get on each other’s nerves after spending too much time together and we take a few days off and everything is good again. After having her here for so long and being used to having her around all the time I’m missing her so terribly much! She’s away in California having a great time with her brother, sister-in-law and adorable nephew. Having her not be here for almost two weeks now only makes me long for her to be here more. Once she gets back it will be like she was never away, and I’m sure we’ll get sick of each other in a few days’ time only to miss each other not long after.

       As much as we love to have the people we love around us it is definitely important to have our own time. Even if it’s to just collapse on a bed and stare at the ceiling looking for patterns in the cracks that aren’t really there, or sit down to listen to a CD you haven’t had the time to properly listen to, or maybe play that single-player videogame you don’t play when they’re around so you don’t make them feel left out, or read that book that you’ve been dying to finish…dropping hints much, right?  ^_~

       So, I can’t help but wonder…is distance crucial to make an up-close-and-personal relationship succeed?